Missbrauchs- und Belästigungsvorwürfe gegen Dagri Rinpoche

Spain, May 2019

I write this in response to Dagri R public statement, his monastery's letter, to the update posted on the FPMT site, and Lama Zopa's advice. Honestly I have been repeating myself for years, trying to take this to all sort of different instances and being blamed and shamed again and again, starting from Dagri's own lies against me in order to protect his reputation, which he's doing all over again without the slightest regret or embarrassment. His attitude is the result of an entire life getting away with molesting students and devotees around the world due to the silence and complicity of some institutions and of the Tibetan system itself. The part of Dagri's statement when he talks about me, starts by discrediting me, saying that I experienced "physical and mental problems". I had a physical problem and, as far as I'm concerned, we all experience some degree of mental distress until we achieve the higher grounds.. but we cannot deny that what he is trying to say is that I am crazy. He told that to several others years ago. Today he is doing the same, instead of apologising he's blaming and discrediting the victims, the oldest method proved effective to get away with abuse. If I was crazy or mentally unstable at that time, HHDL probably wouldn't have sent me as the official Spanish translator of the Kalachakra initiation and teachings in

Washington 2011 and the following Kalachakra in Bodhgaya, as well as many other teachings I translated for years into different languages. I have extensive intellectual and academic experience, enough to prove my intelligence, but getting into details about this would be insulting as I am obviously not crazy. Furthermore, even if a person was crazy, he or she would still have the right to be heard and protected. Then the abuser says I spoke up after three years from the incident. That is a lie, look at the date in my statutory declaration (attached), it says 2008. Look at the police stamp at the end of the declaration, it says 11/11/2010. It took me one and a half years to start recovering from the shock and talking about it. Everybody knows that when these situations happen, it can take many many years if not an entire life for the victim to even be able to start talking about it, so the time here should not be of any importance or diminish the seriousness of the matter. After talking with some friends and sisters, I was finally advised in October 2010 by Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo to proceed the way I did. Finally I went to Kangra police to do the statement one month later. Then he says the there was a meeting with the two of us and six witnesses, that is a lie too. At the meeting there were him and his attendant, me and my friend Karma Yeshe, Chime-la from HHDLs office, and a Tibetan person taking notes. These are not 6 witnesses as you can see. I also have no idea of what he means by 'clarifying the truth', as the meeting was for him to apologise to me, which he did, and not the other way around as he tried to make others believe and still is. Please see the statement from my witness Karma Yeshe. Regarding the update about Dagri R on the FPMT website, I am happily surprised to hear that some sort of measures of this kind were finally taken this time. But I also have to disagree with some of the points, which maybe due to lack of information were made. For example where it says 'The Private Office informed us that they had investigated the allegations, and that they had resolved the matter' I'm really curious to know what the FPMT and HHDLs office mean by 'investigated' and by 'solved'. How do you 'solve' molestation or abuse? The very minimum from the abuser's side would be to acknowledge the wrongdoing, apologising, have the determination not to do it again... and from the institution side, at least retrieve the support to the abuser and stop promoting him around the world. When the Office told the FPMT that the matter had been solved, did they say I dropped the allegations? I have never dropped the allegations as I will never take back my statutory declaration, did the FPMT even read it? How could I possibly take all that back? I didn't and I won't cause it's the truth. So just to be clear, the charges were never dropped cause I didn't press charges, because he apologised and promise not to repeat his behaviour again. The allegations were never dropped cause what happened is what happened and it cannot be modified, my written police statement is not an opinion but a description of facts. Was it correct to keep promoting Dagri, even if the office said that the 'matter was solved', when a statement like this was issued and never retracted? Did the FPMT ever thought of asking me or the other victims how we felt about this? In the update on FPMTs website it mentions only the Indian woman and me, even though there were other incidents before and after me, the newest victim to speak up is this Korean woman Shin Young Sun who used to be a student in Sarah College: Actually, i wanted to waiting for H.H Dalai lama office`s reacts about Dagri rinpoche`s issue. But you guys seems like to just want to hide this issue as usual. So, i have decided to stand for Kunsang who was a nun in the Dharamsala 10 years ago. I, myself, i had already forgave the Dagri rinpoche. But i write this post for other victims. Because they seems like still experience the hardships. I was an one of victims of Dagri rinpoche. My Tibetan name is a Karma Yangchen, Yangchen Dolma or Thupten Dolma. I get a name of Thupten Dolma from a Dagri rinpoche. I was in India between 2005 to 2009. I was a Sarah college student in the Dharamsala. One day, when i was visited to the Dagri rinpoche`s place near by the H.H Dalai lama`s place, Dagri rinpoche hand has grabbed the my breast. I asked to him with cold voice, "Is it good?" And he answered to me "Yes." I had to just left away from his place. Because i neeed to protect myself. However, many kinds of thoughts were raised in that moments. Could it be a bad karma for myself? Did i carelessly let his hands stopped? I wanted to informend it to H.H Dalai lama`s offfice. But H.H Dalai lama`s offfice told me that just H.H Dalai lama is very busy. I wanted to let this accident to informed a rinpoche who belonged to Geluk lineage. So, i went to the Ling rinpoche`s place. But he tolds me just "It is really bad thing." Then..... nothing happend. So, i was very frustrated. So, this happening became a cause to let me go back to the Korea. I shared this stories with Julia Wilson, Tenzin Weigyel, Paldron Hyoam and etcs 10 years ago. Can you guess how suffered i was? I had to blamed several rinpoches and H.H Karmapa rinpoche including H.H Dalai lama. Because i thought they didn`t really protect me as a their disciple. Now, i am still a buddhist, married in Korea and have a daughter. As i already mentioned, i had already forgave the Dagri rinpoche. But still there have some victims, i have decided to stand for them. I can understand how precious your guru is. I can understand why you want to strand for your rinpoche. But i just wish that you could understood the victims `s suffering either. And i think that i need to stand for victims in this moment. I don`t want any repay. And actually, no one can repay for my past sufferings. They were already gone in my mind. But if you are trying to ignore the Kunsang`s sufferings... (who was a buddhist nun 10 years ago) I won`t just stay calm. Because she is a precious being as a your rinpoche. 하단 유투브 내용을 참고하시길 바라며 이 글을 올립니다. 제 티벳 법명은 까르마 양쩬, 양쩬 돌마, 툽텐 돌마입니다. 저는 닥리 린포체께 툽텐 돌마라는 법명을 받았습니다. 2005년에서 2009년경 저는 인도 다람살라에서 티벳 불교를 공부하고 있었고, 다람살라에 있는 티벳 대학 학생이기도 했습니다. 불자로서 이런저런 공부를 하고 있던 와중 어느날, 저는 제 지인이기도 한 툽텐 잠양 켄체 린포체의 스승인 닥리린포체의 집을 방문했습니다. 2008년. 그 어느 날. 닥리 린포체는 갑자기 티벳어로 대화도중 제 가슴을 만졌고, 저는 매우 당황했습니다. 왜냐하면... 스님이 여자의 몸을 만진다는 것 자체가 이해되지 않았기 때문입니다. 저는 더 큰 일이 벌어질까 두려워, 제 가슴이 좋은가요? 라고 싸늘하게 물어봤습니다. 닥리 린포체께선 "그렇다"라고 대답하셨고... 전 급히 그 장소에서 벗어나야 한다는 생각에 바로 떠났습니다. 이 일은 제가 인도 다람살라에서 공부하던 와중에 한국으로 돌아오게끔 한 계기가 되었습니다. 사실, 저는 이 일로 인해 다른 누구도 불심에 의혹을 갖지 않길 원했기에 친했던 몇 분 외엔 이 사건을 언급한 적이 없습니다. 사실, 닥리 린포체란 이름도 한국분들껜 오늘 처음 언급합니다. 제가 그 분의 이름을 언급하는 것은 저 말고도 다른 피해자가 있기 때문입니다. 10년전에 제가 만나본 적은 없지만, 비구니로 출가한 서양인 여성분이 닥리 린포체께 성추행을 당한 후 고통을 호소하고 있습니다. 저는 그동안 달라이라마, 까르마파 등 다른 린포체들을 불신하고 원망했습니다. 그들은 저의 귀의처이며 마땅히 저를 보호해 줘야 했다고 생각했기 때문입니다. 하지만 지금 제 자신은 닥리 린포체를 이미 용서했습니다. 왜냐하면, 제가 고통받았던 10년동안의 세월을 누구도 어떻게든 보상해 줄 수없기 때문입니다. 제가 수치심을 무릅쓰고 이 글을 올리는 이유는... 또 다른 희생자가 생기지 않길 바라는 마음때문이며.... 현재에도 고통받고 있는 피해자의 억울함을 조금이라도 풀어주기 위해서입니다. 당신이 린포체란 지위의 귀한 존재를 공경하는 것 만큼 저는 이 쿤상이란 이름의 비구니였던 서양인을 존중합니다. 그리고 당신들이 귀하게 여기는 닥리린포체처럼 이 분 또한 고통받아선 안된다고 생각하기에 이 글을 올립니다. . But there have been several other allegations before. Even tulkus XXX and XXX have had they say about Dagri's misbehaviour since the 80's and they weren't heard or were criticised, until the issue was forgotten. There is one anonymous testimony from another nun victim which was sent to FPMT executive dated 2010, and correspondence where he acknowledges an incident which he had kept confidential. There was also a complaint about Dagri R from my friend, Australian lawyer XXX related to my case in 2013 which means there were other complaints after 2011. Due to all these different testimonies that were sent to this organisation, I feel quite sad that this issue is still being treated as if the only unfortunate incidents happened to the Indian lady on the plane and to me, and that while we are being doubted Dagri's innocence is still implied as a clear possibility! That is not the case and FPMT knew about this. The fact that some victims wished to remain anonymous doesn't mean that the molestation didn't happen or that it can be kept secret, but that is exactly what happened, manipulation, secrecy and fear.

*Please notice that being silent about abuse and continue to hire a molester with multiple allegations, makes the institutions who have promoted him liable for the damage caused to the victims*. After all this, none of us have even received a single apology or acknowledgement of wrongdoing from Dagri R, all the opposite, and no institution has taken any responsibility for this, or validated me as a victim or as someone who has spoken the truth. All that me and other nuns and friends who supported us have received is blame, shame, threats and slander (now some are even trying to make others believe that victims and witnesses are nothing but a conspiracy from the DorjeShugden group! ridiculous!), to the point that many still now are scared and become frozen when it comes to speak up. I cannot even begin to tell how all this has forever affected my life and my relation with the Dharma, and there's no need 'cause most people provided with a little empathy can imagine that. Regarding Tsawa Khangtsen's letter about the issue, it's ridiculous to try and discredit all the victims, witnesses and supporters, saying that they are followers of Dorje Shugden possessed by the forces of Mara...And about Lama Zopa's advice, it's embarrassing and outrageous, an explicit karma-based threat filled with fantastic stories of deities and pure lands, which excuses the abuser from any 'appearance' of misconduct that he may manifest. A group of Buddhist practitioners and teacher from around the world has started this petition to request to the FPMT to commission a third party investigation on the matter so that victims who wish to remain anonymous can speak up, please help us by signing this: http://chng.it/l8bgfrf7bs
Here's the letter which explains the petition: https://drive.google.com/open?id=1ttd4wa93wybsnw5us47e3ovw485pf8dxgl-j4oayjuw
This is my witness Karma Yeshe's statement about the meeting:https://drive.google.com/open?id=1jtajwwoqiunq6u9mvxbqyjpyiqexx0fu
Here the FPMT's update: Update Regarding Dagri Rinpoche - FPMT
Lama Zopa's advice: https://fpmt.org/lama-zopa-rin…udents-of-dagri-rinpoche/
Seraje's tsawa khangtsen's statement: https://drive.google.com/open?id=0b3y7mjq91pmwetlim0f5oejcqk5ryvgysuxurmpfodbgcze4
Dagri R's statement: https://fpmt.app.box.com/s/6flpt7b4hm2bed14chgejhnd501h75i6
My video statement with links to the police statement:

Jakaira Perez Valdivia - Kunsang